It feels as though we are discussing different matters here. We are not attempting to erase history and we do acknowledge that these things happened throughout history- we simply do not accept that Kanda is a suitable character with which to explore these themes and issues. The example you referred to was of an original character whose "canon" history involved those subjects; if you had apped a character whose backstory involved attempted or actual sexual abuse, we would have been amenable to an AU backstory that involved the same.

We chose to take a cautious approach by asking you to remove the two lines in Kanda's AU backstory that we felt were unnecessary in the grand scheme of his app- we did not feel that removing them would hurt either the historical accuracy, the character you were describing or the overall impact of your AU in any significant way. Given that it made up such a small part of your app, we did not think we were being unreasonable. Our comment about victim blaming was in response to actual discomfort expressed by one of our current players about your app, and thus we felt it important to include so that you could clarify your meaning.

We are genuinely sorry that this panned out so badly- we haven't handled this nearly as well as we could have done and apologise sincerely if we made you feel talked down to or wronged in any way which, though not our intention, seems to have happened anyway. We wish you the best for the future and hope you'll forgive us for making such a mess of this (it's our first modding gig and, fingers crossed, we can learn from the mistakes made here and in the past and work things out going into the future).

edit: just to add that we'll be revisiting and revising our policies on this and working out a better way of judging things. Again, we're very sorry.